What To Do With A Compliment?

How do you handle a compliment?  Moreover, how do you pay someone a compliment?  John Stott reflects on how the Apostle Paul handled that:

What should our attitude be to Christians who are doing well in some aspect of their discipleship?  Some people resort to congratulations:  ‘Well done!  I think you’re marvellous.  I’m proud of you.’  Others are uncomfortable with this and see its incongruity.  It borders on flattery, promotes pride and robs God of his glory.  So, although they may thank God privately in their prayers, they say nothing to the person concerned.  They replace flattery with silence, which leaves him or her discouraged.  Is there a third way, which affirms people without spoiling them?  There is.  Paul exemplifies it in 2 Thessalonians 1.  He not only thanks God for the Thessalonians; he also tells them that he is doing so:  ‘we ought always to thank God for you … we boast about you’.  If we follow his example, we will avoid both congratulations (which corrupts) and silence (which discourages).  Instead, we can affirm and encourage people in the most Christian of all ways:  ‘I thank God for you, brother or sister.  I thank him for the gifts he has given you, for his grace in your life, for what I see in you of the love and gentleness of Christ’.  This way affirms without flattering, and encourages without puffing up. (From “The Message of Thessalonians” (The Bible Speaks Today series: Leicester: IVP, 1991), p. 145.)

Why not thank God for someone today.  Let me start.  I thank God for you – for who you are in the gospel and how you enrich my life by your presence and ministry.

What To Do With A Compliment?

How do you handle a compliment?  Moreover, how do you pay someone a compliment?  John Stott reflects on how the Apostle Paul handled that:

What should our attitude be to Christians who are doing well in some aspect of their discipleship?  Some people resort to congratulations:  ‘Well done!  I think you’re marvellous.  I’m proud of you.’  Others are uncomfortable with this and see its incongruity.  It borders on flattery, promotes pride and robs God of his glory.  So, although they may thank God privately in their prayers, they say nothing to the person concerned.  They replace flattery with silence, which leaves him or her discouraged.  Is there a third way, which affirms people without spoiling them?  There is.  Paul exemplifies it in 2 Thessalonians 1.  He not only thanks God for the Thessalonians; he also tells them that he is doing so:  ‘we ought always to thank God for you … we boast about you’.  If we follow his example, we will avoid both congratulations (which corrupts) and silence (which discourages).  Instead, we can affirm and encourage people in the most Christian of all ways:  ‘I thank God for you, brother or sister.  I thank him for the gifts he has given you, for his grace in your life, for what I see in you of the love and gentleness of Christ’.  This way affirms without flattering, and encourages without puffing up. (From “The Message of Thessalonians” (The Bible Speaks Today series: Leicester: IVP, 1991), p. 145.)

Why not thank God for someone today.  Let me start.  I thank God for you – for who you are in the gospel and how you enrich my life by your presence and ministry.

30 Practical Ways For Living Missionally At Work

Many times it’s difficult to find practical ways to be a blessing in your workplace. Rapid pace, mounting deadlines, or co-worker conflict can often derail even the best of intentions to say and show the love of Jesus at work.

Recently, Josh Reeves posted some very practical ideas for blessing others in the workplace.  

1. Instead of eating lunch alone, intentionally eat with other co-workers and learn their story.

2. Get to work early so you can spend some time praying for your co-workers and the day ahead.

3. Make it a daily priority to speak or write encouragement when someone does good work.
4. Bring extra snacks when you make your lunch to give away to others.

5. Bring breakfast (donuts, burritos, cereal, etc.) once a month for everyone in your department.

6. Organize a running/walking group in the before or after work.

7. Have your missional community/small group bring lunch to your workplace once a month.

8. Create a regular time to invite coworkers over or out for drinks.

9. Make a list of your co-workers birthdays and find a way to bless everyone on their birthday.

10. Organize and throw office parties as appropriate to your job.

11. Make every effort to avoid gossip in the office. Be a voice of thanksgiving not complaining.

12. Find others that live near you and create a car pool.

13. Offer to throw a shower for a co-worker who is having a baby.

14. Offer to cover for a co-worker who needs off for something.

15. Start a regular lunch out with co-workers (don’t be selective on the invites).

16. Organize a weekly/monthly pot luck to make lunch a bit more exciting.

17. Ask someone who others typically ignore if you can grab them a soda/coffee while you’re out.

18. Be the first person to greet and welcome new people.

19. Make every effort to know the names of co-workers and clients along with their families.

20. Visit coworkers when they are in the hospital.

21. Bring sodas or work appropriate drinks to keep in your break room for coworkers to enjoy. Know what your co-workers like.

22. Go out of your way to talk to your janitors and cleaning people who most people overlook.

23. Find out your co-workers favorite music and make a playlist that includes as much as you can (if suitable for work).

24. Invite your co-workers in to the service projects you are already involved in.

25. Start/join a city league team with your co-workers.

26. Organize a weekly co-working group for local entrepreneurs at a local coffee shop.

27. Start a small business that will bless your community and create space for mission.

28. Work hard to reconcile co-workers who are fighting with one another.

29. Keep small candy, gum, or little snacks around to offer to others during a long day.

30. Lead the charge in organizing others to help co-workers in need.

The Gospel And Wealth

An Associated Press article that appeared in yesterday’s Springfield News Leader revealed that the wealth gaps between whites and minorities are at their widest levels in a quarter-century and possible even beyond.  The article cited a study that The Pew Research Center conducted, which revealed that the median wealth of white U.S. households in 2009 was $113,149, compared with $6,325 for Hispanics and $5,677 for blacks.  No that’s not a typo.  Those are the actual numbers.  That means whites have 20 times more wealth than blacks and 18 times more wealth than Hispanics.  Timothy Smeeding, a University of Wisconsin-Madison professor who specializes in income inequality, stated that what’s pushing the wealth of whites “is the rebound in the stock market and corporate savings, while younger Hispanics and African-Americans who bought homes in the last decade – because that was the American dream – are seeing big declines.”  What does this all mean?  Roderick Harrison, who is a former chief of racial statistics at the Census Bureau, believes this pushes us back to being “two societies, separate and unequal.”

As I process this article, I think I am more alarmed not at how little the median wealth for blacks and Hispanics is (though that is alarming) but how much the median wealth for whites are.  I am reminded of Jesus’ pronouncement to the disciples having just witnessed a prominent, religious and rich young man reject the gospel, that “it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the kingdom of God.” (Luke 18:25)  According to Jesus, wealth can and does blind us to our need for the gospel as well as the needs of others.  After all, it is not the rich in spirit (or even the middle class in spirit)  that inherit the kingdom of God, but the poor in spirit.  The kingdom of God is for the spiritually needy…those who know they have no leg to stand on, nothing to bring to Jesus except for their need.  If I recognize my spiritual neediness and look to Jesus to cover that with the gospel, then I am more apt to see the physical neediness of others and look to cover their neediness with the gospel in very tangible and practical ways.  Lord, give me eyes to see and a heart that’s free to love the needy around me even as you have done for me.

The Gospel And Wealth

An Associated Press article that appeared in yesterday’s Springfield News Leader revealed that the wealth gaps between whites and minorities are at their widest levels in a quarter-century and possible even beyond.  The article cited a study that The Pew Research Center conducted, which revealed that the median wealth of white U.S. households in 2009 was $113,149, compared with $6,325 for Hispanics and $5,677 for blacks.  No that’s not a typo.  Those are the actual numbers.  That means whites have 20 times more wealth than blacks and 18 times more wealth than Hispanics.  Timothy Smeeding, a University of Wisconsin-Madison professor who specializes in income inequality, stated that what’s pushing the wealth of whites “is the rebound in the stock market and corporate savings, while younger Hispanics and African-Americans who bought homes in the last decade – because that was the American dream – are seeing big declines.”  What does this all mean?  Roderick Harrison, who is a former chief of racial statistics at the Census Bureau, believes this pushes us back to being “two societies, separate and unequal.”

As I process this article, I think I am more alarmed not at how little the median wealth for blacks and Hispanics is (though that is alarming) but how much the median wealth for whites are.  I am reminded of Jesus’ pronouncement to the disciples having just witnessed a prominent, religious and rich young man reject the gospel, that “it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the kingdom of God.” (Luke 18:25)  According to Jesus, wealth can and does blind us to our need for the gospel as well as the needs of others.  After all, it is not the rich in spirit (or even the middle class in spirit)  that inherit the kingdom of God, but the poor in spirit.  The kingdom of God is for the spiritually needy…those who know they have no leg to stand on, nothing to bring to Jesus except for their need.  If I recognize my spiritual neediness and look to Jesus to cover that with the gospel, then I am more apt to see the physical neediness of others and look to cover their neediness with the gospel in very tangible and practical ways.  Lord, give me eyes to see and a heart that’s free to love the needy around me even as you have done for me.

You May Be An Idolater If…

Jeff Foxworthy made famous the statement, “You may be a redneck if…”, in his standup comedy routine. In reading through Tim Keller’s excellent book/study guide, Gospel In Life, I came across this table in which he highlights the various ways that we, as humans, are guilty of idolatry. It seems that Foxworthy’s statement could easily be adapted to fit the prevalent and pervasive nature of idolatry in our lives…something like, “You might be an idolater if…” As I read through the list, I remembering thinking, “Good grief, it seems like everything could fall under the category of idolatry.” That’s Keller’s point. The essence of sin is idolatry…trusting in something or someone in the place of God to give you significance and importance. Praise God for the grace that is greater than my sin, yes even my idolatry.

You May Be An Idolater If…

Jeff Foxworthy made famous the statement, “You may be a redneck if…”, in his standup comedy routine. In reading through Tim Keller’s excellent book/study guide, Gospel In Life, I came across this table in which he highlights the various ways that we, as humans, are guilty of idolatry. It seems that Foxworthy’s statement could easily be adapted to fit the prevalent and pervasive nature of idolatry in our lives…something like, “You might be an idolater if…” As I read through the list, I remembering thinking, “Good grief, it seems like everything could fall under the category of idolatry.” That’s Keller’s point. The essence of sin is idolatry…trusting in something or someone in the place of God to give you significance and importance. Praise God for the grace that is greater than my sin, yes even my idolatry.

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