How do you handle a compliment? Moreover, how do you pay someone a compliment? John Stott reflects on how the Apostle Paul handled that:
What should our attitude be to Christians who are doing well in some aspect of their discipleship? Some people resort to congratulations: ‘Well done! I think you’re marvellous. I’m proud of you.’ Others are uncomfortable with this and see its incongruity. It borders on flattery, promotes pride and robs God of his glory. So, although they may thank God privately in their prayers, they say nothing to the person concerned. They replace flattery with silence, which leaves him or her discouraged. Is there a third way, which affirms people without spoiling them? There is. Paul exemplifies it in 2 Thessalonians 1. He not only thanks God for the Thessalonians; he also tells them that he is doing so: ‘we ought always to thank God for you … we boast about you’. If we follow his example, we will avoid both congratulations (which corrupts) and silence (which discourages). Instead, we can affirm and encourage people in the most Christian of all ways: ‘I thank God for you, brother or sister. I thank him for the gifts he has given you, for his grace in your life, for what I see in you of the love and gentleness of Christ’. This way affirms without flattering, and encourages without puffing up. (From “The Message of Thessalonians” (The Bible Speaks Today series: Leicester: IVP, 1991), p. 145.)
Why not thank God for someone today. Let me start. I thank God for you – for who you are in the gospel and how you enrich my life by your presence and ministry.
